The Story Of Love !

Today I want to share an insight about love, from a story written by a man who is very well-versed in matters of the heart. At first when I read this story, I did NOT want to accept it, I immediately dismissed it on the basis that it was a "negative" story and that I did Not want to hear it, I wanted to ignore it because it made me feel uneasy, but later on, I found strength and inner courage deep within my soul to face the words behind this insight. And this is what it had to say :

There are two things about love

1. Love is a speculative gamble that must end with a loss

2. To be in love is therefore to risk losing the very one you love

From the above statement, it is clear that there are NO two ways about love. There are NO exceptions on the destiny of love. Love will lead to a loss, one way or another, and it MUST lead to a LOSS, for reasons that will become clearer as we dissect it below.

You could lose the one you love due to him/her leaving you or you *will* lose the one you love due to him/her departing from your life. And there is NO such thing as "rejoicing" or "celebrating" the loss of a beloved, no matter how "positive" such an experience may be packaged as. Upon the loss the heart knows to only cry and bleed with sadness. You will remain depressed and devastated by the experience once the loss befalls you. You will not know what you should do with your life going forward. Should it find you in the state of love, it will cut deep like a knife and you could spend the rest of your life in a handicapped state due to the consequences of the loss.

The longer you hold on to the love that is NOW GONE FOR GOOD, the more handicapped you remain as you will NOT make yourself open to any alternative possibilities that remain widely available to you. And the stronger you believe that you WILL FIND what you have lost, the harder it will be to live without it. The scar it leaves behind will be nearly impossible to heal, despite the possibility that the loss is something that could be celebrated and forgotten from a "positive-thinking" perspective. The only thing that will satisfy your desire is to be *reunited* with your beloved. Nothing else will really come close. The loss of a beloved serves to remain an albatross in your life. The shackles of the albatross itself will bind your soul after the loss and it will become nearly impossible to set yourself free of the shackles once they are locked in place upon your soul.

The hardest thing to understand about love is perhaps to come to the utter realization that love is nearly "selfish" and of "one's own making". It serves only to fulfill one's desires, but NOT necessarily one's "desires for good". If it is good to love, and your husband goes to love another woman, then his love will be interpreted as "dishonesty" and "betrayal" and it will NOT be viewed as *love* anymore. To the other woman who is receiving new love, it is but *good and pure love* coming her way, and she can only see *love* in her eyes. Any other view in her perspective will appear to be *jealousy* and *ill-wishing* against her fortune. This makes love a convoluted experience. Love can therefore NEVER be free. Love shall come with RULES and CONDITIONS where ever you see it. It shall walk hand-in-hand with selfishness. It cannot be shared FREE or be given FREE. Neither can it be given out of goodwill. It can only be given under *selfish* terms, to serve the particular needs of only a *chosen few*, and many a times *only the chosen one*.

The loss of a loved one leaves you with a yearning to WANT TO LOVE HIM/HER again, even when he/she has departed, and even with the clear knowledge that you are NEVER going to be able to love that same person again because you only *met* him/her on EARTH and it was an earthly encounter, the soul may remain yearning for the IMPOSSIBLE. If you could devise a means to break into the "other side", where you beloved hopefully awaits you, you would immediately drop everything you're doing with your life right now and you would START WORKING on that NEW activity until you succeed at it ! But the form of life beyond this earth may NOT lend itself to the ideals of love, marriage, family, relationships or even personal encounters at all, because all these are but elements of earthly life. And we cannot expect to fulfill our *earthly* experience when we reach yonder the earth. It is but another form of existence that may involve NOTHING of the ideals we see in the here and now.

One bothersome question I keep asking myself is whether I come *from another previous existence* or NOT, and whether I am trying to ignore it SIMPLY because I CANNOT REMEMBER IT or because I CANNOT FIGURE IT OUT in my brain. It would appear to me that ANYTHING we CANNOT REMEMBER at all is simply being dismissed as *NEVER HAPPENED* and that all we do to entertain ourselves is to conclude that it therefore NEVER EXISTED. What we seem to disregard though is that we would be FORCED TO FORGET EVERYTHING about our earthly existence if we hope to enter another existence beyond the earth. It is very unlikely that we could enter another existence and yet remain LOOKING "DOWN" UPON the earth and interacting with it fully on a daily basis as if we are STILL ON IT. The mere fact that we CANNOT interact with our earthly life form once we've departed from the earth tells me that we would HAVE TO FORGET JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING to do with it.

I cannot conceive how a departed person would manage to live a NEW life in a NEW existence while he maintains full contact and full memory of his previous experiences on earth. Upon the realization that he has just arrived in a NEW world and a NEW existence, if his memory was to EVER RECALL the tiniest bit of experience about where he comes from, he would immediately REALIZE that he HAS left his BELOVED ONES BEHIND, and that they are yearning to HAVE HIM BACK, and he would IMMEDIATELY become severely bothered by this very realization. The first thing he would want from that moment on would be an opportunity to GO BACK ! Upon the realization that he is NOW LONELY in a brand new existence with NO access to all his recent beloved ones, he would want nothing else but to GO BACK. The first plan he would start working on will be a plan to device a means to escape and go back to his previous life ! He would make make it his lifelong mission to find a way to go back so he can be reunited with his friends, family, children and beloved, because there is NO experience that would make him happier.

In this manner we can deduce that it would only serve a dangerous purpose to have "memories" of one's previous life or one's previous existence, because it would hold you accountable to find a plan to escape and go back. It would also hold you captive and prevent you from opening your eyes to the NEW possibilities around you and to start living a REAL and ENJOYABLE life in a NEW EXISTENCE. You would NEVER be FREE from the haunting memories of the beloved ones you have just lost and you would become a captive of your own memories. You would never want to meet NEW encounters in the new existence and you would never be able to love them with all your heart, because you would forever feel accountable to find a means to go back, and this vicious cycle would devastate your life in the new existence within a very short space of time, especially when you discover that there is NO easy way to escape and go back. You would only find yourself held "captive" in a state of new existence and you would want to be SET FREE to go back. Nothing else would fulfill your earnest desire to go back.

So while I am living on earth right now, if at all I do come from another previous existence, surely there would have been ONE who was truly beloved to me in that previous life form, and such person would have LOST me in my departure, and NOW that I have met a new beloved person in this life on earth, I remain with a series of utterly mind-blowing questions about love, and here they are :

1. What happens to the fact that my previous beloved is LONGING to be REUNITED with me someday when she COMES HERE ??
2. And what happens if she certainly comes here ?
3. Would I be able to  "recall"  or  "remember" her ? Do I even want to REMEMBER her ??
4. How many years has she NOW spent in my absence ?
5. Would I be in a position to accept her when she arrives and NOT utterly *reject* her or dismiss her as an evil outsider who is only trying to interfere in my good life here on earth ?
6. If she arrives here, would I ever know ANYTHING about her and about the TWO of us from back in our earlier origins ?

And my answer for all these questions bothers me, because it always seems to be a resounding "NO". The only answer I find acceptable to all these questions is "NO".

And such is the story of love.